Weight loss is not an easy thing to do. It is a journey where you are constantly fighting those internal voices. It is something that can tear you apart. That is why it is so hard, and so many people struggle to do it successfully.
The weight loss industry pushes into our lives, promising the easy way out. From diet pills to fad diets. There are so many opinions on what works, what doesn’t work, eat more meat, eat less carbs, eat for your blood type, eat like our ancestors did, ect. There are also the most extreme ways to lose weight. Gastric and Lap band. But, I am here to tell you obesity can not be cured by a pill, a diet nor surgery.
To lose weight, you first have to figure out why you allowed yourself to get so big in the first place. What caused you to let yourself go? Was it comfort? Was it a way to escape? Was it a way to cure boredom? Once you understand the why. It allows you to fill that void with something else. I ate because I was bored. I was a caretaker. I spent all my time taking care of everyone else. In the mean time, I sat and I ate.
I changed my lifestyle to fill that void with exercise, walking and friends. Friends is the most important addition to my life. These are the people you need in your life to talk to when you are down or emotionally spent. They will call you when you least expect it. Or, when you are sad and down. They spend time with you to talk it out.
I am learning though, that I still make some big mistakes. When I need my friends, they do call. They do see me. But I get so closed up that I don’t tell them I need a hand. I need advice. I need an ear. I’ve been doing this all along. I was in the hospital a year ago April. I was very sick and I was all alone. I didn’t call anyone because I wanted to do it alone. It was the first time I was ever in the ER. I was scared, and I just didn’t feel good. My friends were angry at me, because all I had to do was call and I wouldn’t have been alone.
When I went to Illinois, I went to the Northbrook Seventh Day Adventist Church. I listened to a sermon on opening yourself up to God. Allowing yourself to be seen fully. He said, so many are willing to open themselves up to their friends yet they aren’t transparent to God. You let your friends see you good and bad. Yet we don’t do that when we seek out God. We hide because we want to be perfect, and we want to be flawless. Yet God knows we are all with flaws. Just as our friends know we are with flaws.
This is a bit different to someone who is obese. I am so embarrassed when I am weak. I am so embarrassed to ask for help because I have something to prove. It is a chip on my shoulder that was created by being judged so harshly when I was so big. I am learning though that I need to be honest and when I am in need. I need to trust in the people I have surrounded myself with. I also need to trust in them to offer me advice that is based on their knowledge of me and to accept that. I find myself saying “I know” a lot. This has been pointed out by more then one person. (Douglas, Bruce, and Matt). Instead–I need to trust them and allow myself to walk forward to make a change in my life.
I KNOW my path to finish. <—I need to just finish and quit over thinking things. I KNOW what I want to do..<—I need to just step forward and make it happen… I KNOW how to work out <–I need to recommit myself 100%. No excuses. I also need them to continue to encourage and push me. To not let me make an excuse, but to push me past that.
I trust in God that his love is with me. He has been guiding me the entire time and bringing me these wonderful friends. I trust in my friends to give me solid advice. To love me, support me, and encourage me. They need to be brutally honest with me when I am not being true to myself. They need to call me out, when I am not being accountable to my goals. I do trust in them.
Ultimately weight loss comes down to the choices we make over those internal voices. Yet our outside influences can help us get past that internal voices that saps our strength and robs our spirit. Yes, the people you surround yourself with can help you to quiet those negative thoughts.
If you are overweight and are struggling to lose weight. Surround yourself with positive people who will not judge, but will listen. Surround yourself with people who will be honest with you, even when it is tough. When you find that group of people, I implore you to open up to them. Heed their advice when you know it comes from love. Especially when you are struggling, as we do.
1 Corinthians 10:13