Hello readers. I realize that it has been awhile since I have blogged. I’ve been caught in finding time. A lot is going on in my life, and the weight is still coming off. I still have weight to lose, but I know I will. I have surrounded myself with amazing people and I know with their encouragement and support that I will finish. For me of course, and all those that have been cheering.
So I wanted to touch a subject that I think is so very relevant to weight loss. That is happiness. So many people in life are looking for happiness. When I weighed 589 pounds, I wasn’t very happy. I was so lost in life. There were days that were happy, and things that I did that made me happy. When I look back at my happiness, it was typically when I was at work helping my co-workers or when I was at home helping my Mom. Those were the things that made me happy.
People ask me if food made me happy then? I didn’t know how to answer until recently. No it didn’t make me happy at all. It was selfish to eat the way I did. It was selfish to sit on a couch and not really move and watch TV. Think about it? To sit on the couch and watch TV, you are not out meeting people. You aren’t talking to people. You are just sitting there deep in your own thoughts.
I really started to think about what makes me happy after February. For those of you who don’t know me, that is when I helped a gentleman who was being attacked by dogs. In the process got attacked myself. Someone asked me did it make me happy to help the man? No, it didn’t make me happy to help him. But, I did feel happy knowing he was okay. He was hurt, but the dogs didn’t take his life. I was happy that I could do something.
It really hit me hard at that point. Happiness is not something that is about me. It is something that is given to me when I give back to others. I am happy when I can give my nephew a toy, time with his Aunt to play and run around, or even just to listen to him talk about Blue Angels. I am happy when I can give to someone in need. I am happy when I can talk to someone wanting to lose weight, and they say I have inspired them to move forward. I am happy when I see my cousin water ski anytime he wants too, knowing he loves it. I am happy when I help someone at work achieve a goal. I am happy when I give back to others.
I remember going to a local restaurant once with my Mom. I watched an elderly couple enter the restaurant. It took him nearly 30 minutes to walk 100 yards. He sat close to us and I listened into the conversation. I KNOW I know.. That’s rude. But, I did listen. His wife said, you didn’t have to come today. We don’t have the money for this. You really need to be in bed, your back is bad. He said, this is our 45th wedding anniversary. We need to be out and I want to be here for you. She said, you always know how to make me happy. The simple act of going, and doing something was so beautiful. She realized it. He realized it would make her happy too. How beautiful. No the story doesn’t end there. I paid for their meal, a tip, and anything they wanted. I didn’t tell them who did it, or who it was from. I just watched them smile together. THAT made me happy.
Happiness wasn’t about something given to me by me. But something given to others by me. Love that thought! The greatest gift you can give your family and friends, is a healthy you! Mind, body, and soul! Don’t buy fast food for yourself thinking it will make you feel better. It won’t. Take the time, the energy, and expense and give back to someone in your life. Reconnect, let them know what you are doing to better yourself, and ask them to cheer you on and support you.
Have a wonderful week everyone!! Be happy! The greatest reward in my life is when I see a smile on the faces of my friends and family. It is the best gift I have ever received and it always leaves me truly happy.